Long Essay on The Art of Public Speaking : The art of knowing when to speak our mind and when to mind our speech is termed as ‘wisdom’. If our eyes are positive, we will like the world. But if our tongue is positive, the world will like us. Our success, to a great degree, depends on the facts as to how we speak our words. Here, we should always remember that it is nice to be important. But it is more important to be nice. Any individual, who loves success and desires to be go-getter in any walk of life, should never alienate others or make enemies as far as possible and practicable. Remember, our tongue is a wet place and it is liable to slip. Whether in happiness or in sorrow, in trials or tribulations, we should always be in command of our slippery tongue in any and every situation.
Long Essay on The Art of Public Speaking
The art of knowing when to speak our mind and when to mind our speech is termed as ‘wisdom’. If our eyes are positive, we will like the world. But if our tongue is positive, the world will like us. Our success, to a great degree, depends on the facts as to how we speak our words. Here, we should always remember that it is nice to be important. But it is more important to be nice. Any individual, who loves success and desires to be go-getter in any walk of life, should never alienate others or make enemies as far as possible and practicable.
Remember, our tongue is a wet place and it is liable to slip. Whether in happiness or in sorrow, in trials or tribulations, we should always be in command of our slippery tongue in any and every situation. God does not like the hardness of tongue and heart. That is why, he made them boneless. Even though our tongue weighs very little, still very few people are able to hold and handle it often leading to very undesirable situations in our life as a result thereof.
Hurting others is easy like cutting trees, but making one happy is very difficult like growing a tree. So, rather than hurting anyone, we should allow people to be happy around us. Whether we believe it or not, more homes are destroyed by arguments than by fires. As Dalai Lama said, ‘our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least, don’t hurt them’. Our pain may give laugh to someone, but our laugh should not give pain to anyone.
The art of being pleasant and sweet to everyone is called ‘tact’, quality greatly desired in any walk of life. And, as far as possible, we should try to be tactful. Tact is defined as making a point without making an enemy. We should be a persuasive and sweet-talking person. If we cannot give sweet to someone, at least, we can talk sweetly. After all, it costs nothing. Language has a real great power. Those who speak harshly, can’t sell honey, but those who speak sweetly can sell even chillies. Kindness is thinking creates profoundness. Kindness in giving creates love. But kindness in words creates confidence.
Science tells us that light travels faster than the sound. Perhaps, that is why people look intelligent until we hear the speak. That is why, we should be mindful of what we speak and when to speak. Sometimes, many more things are said when they are left unsaid. But sometimes, we invite embarrassment by opening our mouth at event those places and at those times, when our silence can just be golden. So, it’s better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to open one’s mouth and remove all doubt’, said Abraham Lincoln. However, our silence should not e construed as our weaknesses.
We should definitely speak our mind when we ought to. Two things are said to indicate our weakness. One is to be silent when it is proper to speak and second is to speak when it is proper to be silent. And the discretion to mind our speech come with the wisdom acquired through knowledge and experience. Sometimes, it is good good to be silent also because it is the first condition to be a good listener. If we can’t remain silent, then we cannot learn to us and wisdom others might have. So, we should speak in such a way that people listen to us and listen in such a way that people speak to us. We ought to always be patient and spread the joy.
Often, it has come to be seen that many of us suffer from logophilia, which stands for an individual’s love for speaking. Many of us tend to speak even when the situation does not warrant us to speak or even when we are not concerned with the ongoing debate and discussion by any stretch of imagination. But once we do that, we become and interested party, often leading or landing us in a very embarrassing situation with very negative implications for our personal well—being or emotional health. More often than not, one also ends in ruining oneself completely, even though one should not have been concerned about the matter and should not have spoken in the very first instance.
Also, this logophilia often leads some people to speak more than what is required, thereby again crash-landing oneself into embarrassing grounds or ruining one’s fortunes or one’s fortunes or one’s personal relationships. So, we should not speak, when not required and even when we speak, we should be very measured in what we speak and should, in no case, speak more than what we are supposed to speak.
If we cannot find anything nice to say about someone, then it is always advisable to be quiet than saying the unpalatable truth. After all, silence itself is a great art of conversation, as William Hazlitt would have us believe. If really needed, then we need to find some other way of conveying the same. So, instead of saying that the ‘red colour does not suit someone’, one can definitely say that ‘while red is looking fine, but blue would look wonderful or much better’. However, there may be situations in life or work when we do need to call a spade a spade and we should not flinch from it if the same is required to be done in larger interest.
But all said and done, we must always be careful of what we say. We should always speak ‘life’ to those who cross our path. It is sometimes hard to understand as to how the power of an encouraging word can go such a long way. So, before uttering a word, we should stop for a moment, think of the impact and effect it would have and then we should speak the same. As they say, anyone can speak the words that tend to rob another of the spirit to continue in difficult times. But special is the individual who will take the time to encourage another fellow human being.
Shakespeare rightly said, ‘never play with the feelings of others because you may win the game but the risk is that you will surely lose the person for the life time’. So, if we really wish to be successful in any walk of life, we should always be generous with our tongue. We must speak sweetly so that if ever we have to eat our words, they don’t taste bad. That is why, they say that while handling our self, we should use our head, but while handling others, we ought to use our heart, with head giving broader directions only.
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